It sounds like what you are describing is just “you need good communication”, which I agree with. I very much disagree with the notion that “you must sometimes fight with the person you love”.
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You are fighting, because there is a force (cancer) which is actively working against you. There should not usually be any forces actively working against your relationship though, so I wouldn’t call it a fight.
I agree. To me “fighting” implies that there are forces trying to end the relationship, against which you must fight.
But that just isn’t the case in good relationships IMO. Yes some amount of effort is often required, and not every day can feel like the honeymoon phase, but the relationship has never felt adversarial.
I don’t doubt that for some relationships, “fight” is probably an accurate phrase. But I don’t think it should be seen as normal or expected of every relationship.
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Selfhosted@lemmy.world•I prompt injected my CONTRIBUTING.md – 50% of PRs are botsEnglish
3·1 day agoI agree, though you’d need to make sure it isn’t something that a human could notice and mistake as a PR convention for your repo, and then mimic
Conveniently, red capsicums are 1000x more delicious than green ones
Kacarott@aussie.zoneto
Autism@lemmy.world•I personally dislike calling myself neurodivergent
7·8 days agoMy problem with this, is it sort of divides people into “normal” brains, and “not normal” brains. But there is no such thing as “normal” brains. Everyone’s brains work differently. I think labels / diagnosis are important in cases where a person’s brain is different enough in a particular way that it becomes a problem (for them, or for interacting in society, or whatever), but in these cases I think the value of the label is to communicate in which way the person suffers a problem, so that people can be aware of it. It seems strange to me, to have a label which essentially means “I suffer from some kind of problem related to how my brain works, but I’m not going to tell you which problem”.
Edit: after reading other comments, I’ve realised that one place that neurodivergent makes sense as a label, is for building a community of people who share the experience of facing problems in life due to how their brain works. That’s of course, very valid.
Kacarott@aussie.zoneto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Are you OK with slurs being used in irony or dark humor?
3·9 days agoI don’t think any language is sacred. But I also don’t want to negatively impact anyone with my choice of language, so it very much depends on context. And some slurs have such a strong cultural stigma that there exists almost no context where they would be ok.
Sure but this is very similar to messaging isn’t it? Like most of my friends use WhatsApp, but a few people use signal and that number is increasing.
At least with email, a single client could presumably send encrypted emails to others when possible, and regular emails when not. Add opposed to messaging where I cannot send messages from signal to WhatsApp
As a kid I used to think it was dumb when in myth or story, the ruler would visit some kind of oracle/witchdoctor/etc for advice or good luck. And yet here we are.
Is it really so hard to make it secure? If both parties are using some kind of secure email client, couldn’t the clients just encrypt and decrypt the subject/content?
So worst case, your mom/aunt deal with the same amount of advertising crap that they always have, but anyone who wants to can remove this stuff and use the same Linux as they do today.
It’s certainly different than C, but IMO Rust’s type system is also a dramatic improvement.
No no you misunderstand. The literal servers are oxidising
And how would the advertising world even get their shitty software onto your computer? Unlike windows, there isn’t some monolithic corporate entity making decisions about your computer for you.
I think so too, however I’ve thought that about so many things that he ended up getting away with
Depends how many of these kids will end up in AA meetings
Kacarott@aussie.zoneto
Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Videogames you always wanted to play but they did disappointed you?
6·20 days agoI loved spore as a kid, but I do agree that when I tried it again and an adult I was disappointed by the shallowness that I just hadn’t noticed as a kid
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World News@lemmy.ml•Merz: Iran should not be protected by international law 🤡
11·20 days agoA pitiful, embarrassing dog at that
My comment was meant as a joke to the same effect, making it obtusely obvious to managers that this time is not to be disturbed









No, but if you also find all religions audacious and absurd, then wouldn’t atheist be a more accurate term anyway?